Never Chase After Anyone

This is good advice.  In all aspects of life.  Including online.  Do you chase after people online that never give you the time of day in return?  Never read your tweets, posts, updates when you constantly high-five them?

Then stop!! 

Stop feeding the egos of narcissistic people who feed off the joy of ignoring the people who admire them.  If the person is someone in your field that you like to follow, then admire them from afar, but stop giving them more fodder to make themselves feel more superior and you feel worse.

 

A narcissist is a narcissist is a narcissist.  They ain't ever gonna change.  So move on and give your attention to people who deserve it and care about you back.

There.  I feel better already.  Don't you?

New Year and Time For a Life-Cleanse

January 2 is for me like it is most people, I think.  After the holiday festivities, real life appears.  The New Year spread before us feels fresh and new. 
This morning I was thinking about the usual first-of-the-year diet I need to start, and it got me thinking about all the other areas of life that also need a good detox.  So I made a list;

First, my head.  Without a clearing of the mind, no other cleansing can take place.  Letting go of negative, self-defeating thoughts has to come first in order to make progress in all the other areas of life.

Second, my heart.  Old hurts and resentments, perceived slights by others, anger, it all has to swept out of the spirit.  New happiness cannot come in while these are in the way.

Next, my body. Fill it with things that are good for me only. And get up and move!

My home and office need a detox, as well.  Out with old samples and inventory.  Out with clothes we don't wear and, well.....just stuff.
                                            

 

 

 

Clearing out the old makes space for the new and the good.  So today I will take a deep breath and take the first step toward cleansing my life.

all images via pinterest

In the shop.....

Check out this great nailhead chair and French pillow we have on display. 2 chairs in stock.

My New Difficult Client... Me!

There has been an unspoken problem around here for a while.  A sort of white elephant in the middle of the proverbial room. This place needs my attention.  You've heard the saying that the shoemakers children have no shoes.  Well, that is often true for those of us who work in the decorating and design field.  We are often so busy with the homes of our clients, that our homes are last on the list.  Plus, it's not as much fun when you are spending money instead of making it.  So.  It is time.  Time to bite the bullet, be hard on myself, and get busy.  The first thing I have done is have a consultation with myself, and I was brutal with me.  I told myself things I didn't want to hear.  I did not sugarcoat the facts at all.  I walked the house with clipboard in hand and this is what I came back with.

Consultation with Myself

1. I need to seriously de-clutter!!  When did all this crap creep into my rooms, onto my countertops, into my closets?  Where was I when this was happening?
2. I have too much brown going on in here.  Brown wood floors, brown wood furniture, brown wood cabinets, muddy colors abounding.  Brown is doing nothing for me lately.
3. I need to mix it up.  I tend to think more is more if I'm not careful.  Then I acquire too much of a look that I love.  Definitely need to mix some cleaner lines with my more traditional pieces.
4. Electronics.  Got to get a handle on this one.  I have allowed the husband to run amok with these big TVs.  That is going to have to change.
5. I hate my palette.  Six years ago I was not in touch my own true color-self.  I have realized that I love soft, quiet, pastel colors.  Now I just feel suffocated by the ochre scheme that I live with.  I need to breathe.
6. New living room furniture will need to happen.  Like I tell my clients, if you're not using a room, more than likely it has the wrong furniture.  Mine is frankly not comfortable.
7. Artwork and accessories need attention.  Some of it will stay, much of it will go.  Nice stuff, just needs editing and refreshing.
8. There is a floorcovering conundrum in the master bedroom.  It is carpeted.  I wish in hindsight we had run the hardwood into there when we built the house, but we didn't.  Now the wood is no longer available.  Must decide whether to leave the carpet or replace with a different flooring.  If so, what?
9. The kitchen is driving me crazy.  Again, stained cabinets.  Now I realize that every kitchen on my Pinterest board is white or off-white.  This will be a huge DIY project, as a new kitchen it most definitely not in the budget.
10. The dining room furniture will also be on the chopping block.  It's too matchy and too.....yes, too brown!!

Now that the problems have been identified in a general way, my next step will be to take the advice I give all my clients.  Prioritize the problems in order of importance and what the budget will allow, then move into the design phase.  Hang with me on this. I'm rolling up my sleeves.  I'll share the journey with you.

Our Homes, Our Legacies

My Dad passed away a few weeks ago.  Since then my Mother has been facing the fact that in the near future she will probably be selling their home and moving somewhere smaller.  In the process, she has told me to "take what you would like to have".  One day recently I was looking through her chest of drawers full of mine and my brother's baby things.  It was like looking through a faded lens into my mother's life, her days as a young mom and making a home for her family.  There I found this set of baby bedding which belonged to me.  A little handmade baby quilt, a sweet pillowcase embroidered in her own hand, a faded pink receiving blanket, and a still crisply pressed crib sheet. I could just feel the love that she felt for me just by holding these old textiles in my hands.  The way she had lovingly stored them all these years and treasured them.
It made me stop and think how our homes and the things we hold onto through the years connect us in such a real way to the people we love. It made me think about what I will leave behind for my children.  What will they see through that faded lens that distills my life down to what I treasured and what meant the most to me? 

Friday Fabric Pick!

Just had to share this gorgeous fabric I just got in.

 

 

Love!!!

Finding Your True Colors Through Journaling

After I wrote the post the other day on embracing your personal favorite colors, I got to thinking.  How do we get back in touch with ourselves as related to decorating and design?  I mean, it's not like the deafening noise from blogs, catalogs, magazines, our mothers-in-law, and everybody else who feels entitled to opine on our design style has anything to do with our paralysis in choosing colors for our homes, right?

Soooo, I've been thinking on some good ways to help you arrive at colors that reflect your true and authentic self.  In your home, car, office, any place you are.

Like I talked about in my previous post, forget about what EVERYONE says and preaches to you about color. Wipe it right out of your head.  Now, get out a nice new journal, (or grab an old envelope if you're like me), and think back over your whole life.  Think about some of your favorite memories; places to which you have traveled, clothes that you wore, jewelry you owned, anything that you viewed as beautiful and that brought feelings of happiness to you.  Write it down.  In as much detail as possible. Nobody but you has to know it was the color of an old boyfriends eyes or the color of your 1968 Mustang.  (Oh wait. That's me.  But I digress.) 

After you get a pretty good list going, start looking for images to underpin your written ideas.  Look everywhere; not just on Pinterest or design blogs.  Take your phone or camera, get out, and look.  Capture images of the colors you love.  Now, print them out, stick them in your journal, or to an inspiration board.  Like this.

  Then marinate on the whole thing for a while.  This is not an overnight thing.  Color work is just like any other therapy.  It takes a while to get to the bottom but it's worth it. I promise you will enjoy this exercise!  And you will become more confident in your own style and ability to choose color.

If you do choose to consult a designer, (hopefully me!), you will then be prepared to discuss your favorite colors and you will have your wonderful color journal to assist you in communicating about them.

Now, go forth.  Dream, reminisce, wander about, photograph, and find your true colors!